A man brought up his child with mental and physical
handicaps alone for a long time before finding he wasn't the father.
He said he wants to be fire fighter, a specialist, a vet…
But I don't know whether he'll ever get the opportunity to be those things.
Though he is seven, despite everything he kicks, shouts,
swears and breaks things.
He can't deal with his temper and he has no companions.
Be that as it may, he isn't mischievous – Thomas was
conceived with fetal liquor syndrome (FAS), a long lasting, serious condition
brought on by drinking amid pregnancy, which can bring about extreme mental and
physical incapacities.
I met Thomas' mum – my ex Sophie* – when I was a 21-year-old
tiling trainee in Yorkshire.
Only four weeks into our relationship, she let me know she
was pregnant.
She'd let me know she'd had the preventative infusion, so I
was stunned, however I didn't need her to have the baby aborted, assuring her
that if a baby is born, they will make it work together.
Be that as it may, Sophie – who had spent her adolescence in
care home – wasn't prepared for the duties of parenthood and drank all through
the pregnancy.
Although I told her to quit drinking, I never had any idea
about the danger drinking during pregnancy could lead to. We were told by the
Department of Health guidelines that it is safest not to have any drink during
pregnancy.
We knew it wasn't working and she concurred Thomas ought to
live with me, while she stayed in touch.
By then I was working in a petrol station, yet quit to take
care of Thomas.
I had no way out other than to depend on benefits – he
required me.
I went to child rearing gatherings, yet I was dependably the
main man and thought that it was overwhelming.
It was detaching, particularly as my family lived far away.
Thomas hit the typical markers of slithering, strolling and
chattering, however he was small.
Be that as it may, when he was two, he was all the while
wearing nine-month-old child garments.
What an amazing man
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